Sometimes you read a poem or hear a song or experience something so profound that you have to drop everything you’re doing (in this case, homework) and share it. Ironically enough, I wrote a blog last week about how Pat Robertson was missing the point about marriage. Today I saw this song on my Facebook wall. It’s called “Dancing In The Mine Fields” by Andrew Peterson. When it comes to marriage, Andrew Peterson gets it.
“I do” are the two most famous last words
The beginning of the end
But to lose your life for another I’ve heard
Is a good place to begin
‘Cause the only way to find your life
Is to lay your own life down
And I believe it’s an easy price
For the life that we have found
This is the beauty of marriage: Marriage is death. It’s death to self. It’s death to the letter I. Our culture has turned individualism into a virtue and that model just doesn’t work with the model of marriage. This death is hard and it takes a lot of work. But the reality is that two people that give themselves completely to each other, are completely vulnerable to each other; that die to each other will have the most joyous and unbreakable relationship on the face of this planet. This is counter-cultural. It’s a paradox to logic. In the book of Ephesians, Paul calls it a “mystery”. What he means is this is something that we wouldn’t have figured out with our human logic. This is a model that was given by God.
But I’ll stop talking now. Listen to the song – then go hug your spouse.